Top Hookup Mistakes You Should Never Make
Hooking up is, without a doubt, one of the best activities out there. Who doesn’t love great casual sex? If you don’t have a hookup buddy, let me stop you right there. You’re going to want to take a look at my article on exactly how to find a casual fuck friend first.
Now, all that being said, there are a few things you’ll want to keep in mind when you have a hookup buddy. There’s no use in ruining a good thing with an avoidable mistake. Take a look at this list for the top hookup mistakes you should never make.
Don’t get attached
This is number one on this list and for good reason. Getting attached to your hookup buddy is a recipe for disaster. You don’t want to go into a casual hookup with serious expectations. This will only lead to hurt feelings. Before you start a no-strings-attached relationship, make sure you’re ready for it! At the end of the day, it’s all about sex, so keep it that way.
Don’t get jealous
This one is a biggie. When you enter into a hookup relationship, you don’t have to follow the same rules as a serious commitment. And the same rules apply to your fuck buddy. So, if they want to spend their weekend hanging out with someone else, you have to be cool with that. There’s no room for the green-eyed monster in a hookup.
Never introduce them to friends or family
If there’s a surefire way to make a hookup more complicated than it needs to be, it’s introducing them to the family. There’s really no reason your fuck buddy should be meeting your friends or family unless they barge in on your two, unannounced. Once you introduce your fuckbuddy to the important people in your life, you can kiss casual goodbye.
Avoid serious dates
Dinner and a movie is not part of the picture here. Taking your hookup buddy out on a serious date gives the impression that you want a serious relationship. If you really want to do dinner and a movie, order a pizza and put on Netflix.
Try not to lurk on social media
Hey, remember that rule about not getting too attached? Well, this kind of falls under that umbrella. It’s fine to connect on social media, but if you find yourself obsessively refreshing your Instagram to check for their next story, we have a problem. You have to be okay with letting them do their thing and you get the same in return.
Don’t hookup too often
I know you don’t want to hear this, but hooking up with the same person too often will inevitably lead to a messy situation. As much fun as it is, it’s best to keep the casual hookups to once a week. The two of you can get a quick booty call in over the weekend and call it a day. Any more than that and you might as well have a girlfriend or boyfriend.
Keeping sex in the bedroom
If you have a hookup buddy, it’s time to have some sex adventures. Sure, it’s always great to have a romp in the bedroom, but have you tried getting it on in your backyard? Or maybe an elevator! There are tons of places to hook up with you fuckbuddy if you can get a little creative.
Give them space
There is no better way to kill the mood than to get clingy. In fact, I would go out on a limb and say clingy behavior is probably the most unattractive thing in a hookup buddy. That means don’t blow up their phone with a million text messages and phone calls. It also means not getting upset if they don’t want to spend time with you.
Not speaking your mind
This is something that people often do in hookup relationships. You’re so busy worrying about little things that you forget to speak up. Hookup relationships are all about sex, and that means you should be clear about your sexual preferences. Don’t be afraid to let them know when you love something– and if you don’t like something.
Worrying about your skills
Hey, we’ve all been there. You’re hooking up with someone new and you worry if your skills in the bedroom stack up. The truth is, sex is better when you’re in the moment. And the best way to find out if your partner is enjoying themself is to ask! Check out my article for more tips on how to have better sex.
Having unclear expectations
If you don’t really know what you want out of a relationship, you might want to think twice about hooking up. If you really want a serious relationship deep down, you might find yourself making a lot of the mistakes on this list. If you know for certain that you want a casual hookup, make sure your partner knows that this is what you’re looking for. Clear expectations make for a much better hookup experience.
Not wrapping it up
If you’re hooking up multiple people or even just one person, you need to practice safety first. Not using protection is a surefire way to end up in a not-so-fun situation. Avoid the many unfortunate scenarios that come from not using a condom, and wrap it up every time.
Just because it’s a hookup up, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do foreplay. In fact, I would say that relationship about sex should have more foreplay than the standard relationship! There’s no need to rush to penetration. Take time and enjoy the experience.
Now, there is really nothing worse than this. If you have a hookup buddy, make sure to practice excellent hygiene. Wash your sheets, take a shower beforehand, and for goodness’ sake brush your teeth. You want your fuck buddy to remember you for great sex, not bad breath.
Hooking up isn’t rocket science. Keep your expectations clear and don’t get too clingy. If you’re not sure you’re ready for a hookup, wait until the time is right. If you follow these tips, you’ll be having excellent hookups and none of the drama.